Quite strangely, I get asked the exact same questions in the exact same order every time somebody finds out about my travel plans. It goes like this:
1. “So where are you going?”
I always have that double take of…I just told you – Australia, before I remember they actually mean “where exactly in Australia?” This is also my least favourite question because I’m not just going to one place! I’m flying to Brisbane, then heading south for fruit picking, followed by Melbourne in december for a concert and then Sydney for christmas and new year. After that, who knows?
After initially replying with “um”, I now have this answer memorised. I think I worry though, that my answer is too long. This is something I worry about a lot actually; that I take up too much time, that if I say something or tell a story it can’t be too long. I don’t think boys have this concern.
2. “Are you going with anybody/friends?”
“Um, no.”
But I think it’s better this way. If I get a job, I don’t need to worry about the other person getting one in the same place. If I want to stay somewhere, I can, if I want to leave, I can! Travelling by yourself means the ultimate freedom.
3. “Do you have family out there?”
“Nope!”
4. “Ooh you’re so brave!”
Okay this one isn’t a question, but again is said without fail.
For me, this move is a brave one, yes. I spent most of my 17th year in hospital, and the last four and a half years in varying degrees of unwell. I was discharged from hospital less than six months ago, and still rely on my parents a lot. I am not your average 18 year old! Because I think if I was, it wouldn’t be particularly brave. People go on gap years all the time! Plus I think Australia is one of the safest places to go…it’s just a hotter version of the UK right?!
I’m not worried or scared. I would be more worried to stay here, in actual fact. I need a change, some freedom, a chance to make friends and build up my life again. To find a church I love and to follow my passions. I won’t get those things staying here.
In many ways it would be easier not to go. The path of least resistance! But every time I wanted to back out in the beginning, I remember those Taylor Swift tickets and knew that I couldn’t. The nerves are mostly gone now, replaced by excitement and restlessness. It’s six weeks tomorrow until I go, and I can’t wait!! In three and a half weeks we go on holiday, I need to be ready by then. It’s not long!
5. “Your mum must be so worried!”
This one is always funny because I always answer “No, she’s actually really excited for me!” – but when I think about it, I realise that this maybe just be my truth. I think probably she is worried, but mostly only shows her excitement.
6. “Who are you flying with?”
This one is only asked 50% of the time, but without fail I always misunderstand and reply “…I’m flying by myself…” when really they’re asking about the airline. “Ooh, singapore.” Que nodding.
Maybe next time I’ll remember, as I’m sure to get asked these questions many more times before I go!
– T